Are all women "cheaters" and "whores"?
Are all women "cheaters" and "whores"?
Of course not. Anyone with a little bit of comment sense will tell you the answer is "no."
But unfortunately, as a dating coach, every week I have to read emails from frustrated guys who make bold statements such as:
"All American women are bitches."
"All women are liars and cheaters."
"Women are only after good looks and money."
"White people are all racist."
It's sad that there are some men out there who are so negative about everything around them, isn't it?
In a way, I can understand why it is easy to be so negative about the world. As humans, we usually "get used" to the good stuff and put way too much emphasize on the bad stuff.
I'll use myself as an example. As a dating coach, I receive thank-you letters, testimonials, and success stories from my readers regularly. But once in awhile, I receive some crazy flame mail from a customer who is being completely unreasonable.
I'm not even talking about the small percent of clients who like to buy every product I have and
then refund them. I'm talking about guys who threaten to sue me or to kill me. I'm talking about guys who think I am corrupting society and that I should burn in hell. I'm talking about guys who call up a senator to complain about me.
When I first became a dating coach, it really hurt every time I received such a letter.
It didn't matter if I had received 10 thank-you letters before the flame mail. Just one flame mail was enough to take away my motivation for the rest of the day.
Over time I paid less and less attention to these flame mail as I grew more and more confident
with what I was doing. But I would be lying if I said I am never upset at the flame mail I receive. After all, I am still human.
However, over the years I've come up with two observations that really help me remain positive.
Because of these two observations, sometimes I even chuckle when I read a flame mail.
The first is that you cannot get everyone to like you. There'll always be people who dislike you because of personal differences, and that's just something you have to live with.
The second is that a small percentage of the general population will always be troublemakers. You just have to know how to cut them off and focus on the customers that do like you.
Think about how these two rules apply to dating:
1) Not every woman will like you, and that's something you have to live with. Rejections should not affect your self-image. (If you fully understand this one, congrats - you are doing better than most guys.)
2) A small percentage of women will be bitches, cheaters, or liars. Instead of letting them drag you down with them, just ignore them and move on. Devote your time to energy to women that are good to you and good for you.
Apply these two rules to your dating life, and you'll be a much more happier Smart Dater!
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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