Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your worst enemy.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there's that common phrase, "He thinks with his dick."

Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren't sexually satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two -my sex drive and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don't know what you're doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...now there's nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend,

AS LONG AS YOU DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it's their NATURE to take up a man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her.

That way there's less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a sex drive that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you to take a second and ask yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my life."

It was probably something like "good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren't that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.

Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best naturals out there see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.

Young men are taught that their sexual desire is crude and silly, and that women are doing you a favor by ALLOWING YOU to have sex with them.

There's another societal factor going on, that I call the "doofus dad" syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are "better," and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time.

You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

I realized this after analyzing tons and tons of dates I went on with women.

After a while I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but my FULL ATTENTION.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can't get enough of me - in fact, I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

You see, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

I don't recommend you play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

In fact, the proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST.

No games, just be real with her - don't spend more time than you want.

Be a man on the go - focus on your personal goals, and enjoy whatever free time you have with women.

Now this requires that you are able to meet a lot of women in a short amount of time, which I'll have to cover in another article.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" women, and then they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren't property that you can keep or somehow take with you when you die. Think about that.

You can't "keep" a woman by investing all your time with her.

I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you're willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

Either she will try to make you feel guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This is ok, it just means you have a weak focus.

You see, if you are following your true path, it will usually stray from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set out on a journey to discover and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And no, we don't try to impose our values or goals onto you. We think you'll be able to do that for yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin DiCarlo has written The Attraction Code to help men achieve what they are looking for in women.