Almost every Romantic Hero member I talk to tells me he wants more confidence. It would be nice if you could just stop by the store,
grab it off the shelf and go to the checkout to pay for it, but it just doesn't work that way.

Building your confidence takes time.

There isn't a quick pill and I am afraid to say that it is work.

Yes, I did say the W word.

Now I am not saying it is back breaking work or anything, but it does take some effort.

I grew up in poor family on the bad side of town.

I was lanky and dorky looking. I really didn't have anything to feel confident about, especially with the girls.

I was the watcher.

I would sit back and watch my buddies talk to and pick up the chicks while I day dreamed about doing the same, but just didn't have the confidence, or the balls, to do so myself.

My shyness wasn't just with women. I was pretty all-around timid. There were lots of things I wanted to do, but lacked the confidence to do them.

I feared failure.

I feared rejection.

I basically didn't want to get laughed at.

It wasn't until I started working out with some of my buddies that I got an unexpected boost in my confidence level.

My body responded well to the workouts. Now I didn't look like Arnold Schwarzenegger or anything, but I did wrap a little muscle around my otherwise gaunt frame.

As I began to see improvements in my body I felt better about myself and gained a little bit of confidence.

Now I am not saying that lifting weights is the cure for confidence because it is not.

What I am saying is making improvements in your body or your mind will increase your confidence level greatly over time.

It doesn't matter if you learn a new skill, lose some weight, learn a new language or whatever you want to do in order to improve yourself. If you concentrate on improving yourself in any way, you will find a new feeling of confidence in yourself.

In case you haven't noticed, women LOVE confidence in men.
Women can spot out confident men.

It is the way they carry themselves almost like when you were a kid and put on new school clothes.

You just felt better about yourself and other people notice.

Many people assume that having great looks and money will make you confident and happy.

Makes sense, right?

Well, it didn't work for Heath Ledger or Anna Nicole.

Both turned to pills and died young.

It is easy to look at these "heart throb" celebrities and assume they have it all, but as you have seen recently in the news, it is just not so.

My confidence didn't just appear over night. It has been developed over the years.

If you met me now you would swear I was born with confidence, but if you ask my childhood friends, they would beg to differ.

My buddies can tell you the story of the shy Chet they grew up with and laughed at.

Yes, I know what it is like to be laughed at. People laugh at me today because they take a look at my Elvis glasses and pass judgments.

Matter of fact, something happened to me recently on my Baja trip. I went on this group trip and the people who run it made the assessment
that I would be the "trouble maker" of the group.

On the last day the guys actually told me this and apologized because they made judgments based on the fact that I talk loud and the way I dress.

You just can't judge a book by its cover.

I don't give a shit who laughs at me. Their opinion doesn't matter. What matters is what I think of myself.

I don't let any naysayers affect how I feel about myself because I know I am a good person and that is what really counts.

Now go find the woman of your dreams,

Chet Rowland isn’t your normal dating “guru”. He doesn’t suggest you use carefully placed “buzzwords” to get on a woman’s good side... he’s not going to tell you to try and develop some sarcastic sense of humor to arouse feelings of curiosity... and most important, he isn’t going to try and tell you to pretend to be someone you’re not. Check out his online dating program Chet’s Dating System Now