One of the 5C's I talk about is being Desirable. If you're not desirable then no woman will want you. 

Simple concept.

Well being on Instant Messenger, chatting with a woman for hours and hours on end is NOT something that a desirable guy would normally do.

After all if you're desirable then you probably have other women to see (or so she'll think) and you probably have a lot better things to do than spend hours chatting with some random chick
online.

The other problem is this...

The more available you are, the less of a mystery you are. Remember my formula for seduction:

Mystery = Intrigue = Interest

so more mystery is a good thing. It makes the woman wonder... and as she wonders, she becomes more intrigued with you or about you... that intrigue creates more interest.

The less of a mystery you are, the less results you're going to get. After all, you are a desirable guy, you've got girls interested in you and you don't have the time to sit there and tell each girl EVERYTHING about you on day one.

So you give her a bit here, and a little bit there.

As I learned from David D. 'Give her the gift of missing you.'

This saying is SO true. Take this to heart. It works.

See if you're on IM with a woman, not only do you lower your value to her, because she sees you've got nothing better to do than to chat her up for hours...

But...

It also lets her see exactly when you're home, and when you're not. She knows where you are ALL the time!

I mean seriously. How many times have you asked a girl for her IM INSTEAD of her number? If you're like me, that would be never.

It's the women who always ask for your IM because they're hesitant to talk on the phone. 

It's a test. If you give in and give her your IM screen name, you've just failed. Game over.

She'll know you're a wuss and she can own you. She'll know you're WAY too available and this is something you want to avoid at ALL costs.

If she emails you back asking for your IM screen name, do this:

IGNORE IT.

Make believe she never asked for it. Remember, your frame is what matters, not what she thinks or wants. You don't even know this girl, so why do what she wants?

I know some guys want 'how-to' type stuff, so...

WHAT CAN YOU SAY TO A WOMAN WHO ASKS FOR YOUR IM?

This is pretty much what I use word for word. Make sure you take the time to customize it to the way YOU talk. Using YOUR own words.

So you basically ignore her request and respond with:

Hey (her name),

Part 1: I'm too busy to IM...

Part 2: lets talk on the phone...

Part 3: what's your number....

Take these 3 steps and create an email based on
this.

Remember this...

Some women will choose to respond and some won't. 

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