We often hear men lament that women are over emotional creatures. On the other hand, women pride themselves on the depth of their feeling they have towards a man. But when women shower men with the love and yearning they find it stifling and often bolt. The reverse is true too if you move too fast too soon with a woman.

It is important to be realistic when two people are just starting to date. Even if you are strongly attracted to her, do not make the assumption that she shares the same feelings for you. Do not expect her to agree to an exclusive relationship with you immediately after a few dates.

Being "obsessed" with her is only going to scare her away. So if you are thinking of stalking her, calling her like every 5 minutes or so to say the three little words or just to ask what she is up to, banish that thought immediately. By doing that you are actually driving her away.

You are sending her signals of your insecurity, your lack of social life and that she's the first date you've had in a long, long time. It's like you walk around with this red siren that is screaming - DESPERATE! Contemplate that… if you are the lady in question, wouldn't you bolt like lightning?

On the other hand, had you behaved like a confident guy, she would end up being more attracted to you. Give her space show her that you are the confident guy that is sure of yourself.

It is healthy to start a relationship with a neutral caution. Give yourself time to get to know her better and experience what it is like to be together and most important is how YOU feel in the relationship. Always step back and reflect how you both function as a couple before you start gushing and professing undying love.

Remember that the purpose of dating is to find the girl who together with you makes the perfect combination in a relationship. It is not a quest to find the perfect girl! So take your time and do not rush into a relationship; as the saying goes; a candle that burns twice as bright, burns twice as fast!

David Kwan is the publisher of the Dating & Seduction Online Best Seller, the Instant Approaching Secrets -- the community's MOST COMPREHENSIVE program revealing the most intimate secrets on female attraction techniques and dating strategies.