Does Practice Really Makes Perfect

The theory behind the idea that 'practice makes perfect' is that the frequent repetition of a certain action (such as approaching a woman or asking a women out) will eventually establish it as a normal pattern. The more you repeat it, the more firmly established your pattern will be.

This is good if you're practicing the RIGHT way.

However, if you practicing the WRONG way in the first place, then repetition is going to make things WORSE for you when it comes to getting women.

Here's an extreme example:

One of my readers had a habit of giving a woman a "thumbs up" whenever he conversed with one. He first started it "by accident" when he needed some kind of gesture to "act cool" in front of a woman he talked to. But the next time he approached another woman, he did it again...

And again, again and again...

It didn't take long for it to become a habit, and he soon he found himself giving a "thumbs up" to every woman he met.

It took him a long time to "undo" this habit.

So how do you avoid practicing the "wrong" things and ruining your dating game as a result?
Well, here are some tips to help you stay on the right track while you're practicing.

1) Avoid Mindless Repetition

Mindless repetition is not going to help you any.

You could ask a 100 women for their phone numbers...but if you do it just for the sake of completing a certain exercise, it's not going to help you at all. Rather, it
will probably reinforce your bad habits.

(Example: Don't be like the guy who gives women a "thumbs up" every time. Avoid mindless repetition!)

2) See It As An Art Form

The best way to avoid mindless repetition is to see dating as an art form. When you treat something as an art form, you're going to pay more attention to the PROCESS than the RESULTS.
A classical pianist will often play the same passage over and over to look for imperfection.
Have the same mindset when you're practicing your dating
skills. Learn to appreciate your good work, and at the same time look for things that you can improve on.

(Example: Let go of your expectations and focus on improving your skills.)

3) Learn From A Valid Source

Make sure you learn your techniques and strategies from a valid dating coach - not from an Internet Marketer who has paid someone on Elance 0 to write an ebook on dating.

Lots of "dating advice" websites have popped up in the past year, and there's a lot of misinformation out there.
If a certain technique sounds spooky to you, feel free to email me and ask for my opinion.

(Example: Don't use the stupid business card trick that I've warned you about a few months ago. Be weary of sites that look like a porn site and use pictures to arouse you, etc. Email the site a few dating questions and see what kind of answers you get. Most of the time, you won't
get an answer at all.)

4) Think About It

Spend as much time THINKING as you do practicing. Practicing is useless you actually THINK about what you're doing!

(Example: Keep a journal and write down your experiences.)

5) Analyze And Find Solutions

Analyze your results and think about your current problems and obstacles. Then find a solution to fix your problem.

(Example: If you find yourself Speaking too quickly in front of a woman, then slow down instead of just repeatng what you've been doing all along!)

6) Isolate One Thing

Practice one thing at a time instead of trying everything at once. This way you will know PRECISELY what it is that you're doing right or wrong. Isolate your mistakes and learn from them, and in time you can only improve your success.

(Example: Work on speaking clearly on the first day and on speaking louder on the second day.)

7) Relate It To The Bigger Picture

Practicing is useless and boring unless you see how it relates to the big picture. For example, when you practice smiling at a woman, don't do it because Marius told you to.
Do it because you know it's a way to make women feel comfortable around you.

(Example: Read the first few chapters of my "Smart Dating Course" to get the basic concepts drilled into your head.
This way you will see how the techniques actually fit nicely into our "Smart Dating Model".)

8) Imitate A Master

Look around you and find men that are REALLY good with women. Imitate their actions and practice doing what they would do if they were put in the same situation.

(Example: Go rent a Tom Cruise movie and practice imitating his body language. Then when you go out on a date, ask yourself, "What would Tom Cruise do?")

9) Don't Avoid Mistakes

You can't have good luck unless you have had bad luck in the past, and you can't taste success until you have made mistakes first. Until you feel what it is like to do something wrong, you're not going to know if you're doing something right.

(Example: Try to laugh about your mistakes to yourself and see them as part of your learning experience. At least you're conscious about your mistakes unlike most guys. That makes a HUGE difference!)

10) Learn To Feel

Let yourself immerse into the experience every time. For example...if you're a swimmer, you should know what it's like to feel every stroke in the water. Or if you're a musician, you should know what it's like to feel the music.

Try to do the same thing with dating and with your social life in general. When you've involved in a good conversation, sink in the energy and FEEL what it's like to be right. Or when things aren't going too well, then FEEL the warning signs. In time, you will build up your intuition and that is when you will REALLY become a master at social dynamics.

(Example: Try to feel where a conversation is heading when you're talking to a woman.)

So now that you know "how" to practice...do you know any techniques or strategies that you SHOULD be practicing?

For a start, you should start with the things you've learned from my "Smart Dating Course". And if you STILL haven't downloaded my course yet, then you really owe it to yourself to download it now

While I cannot say that my techniques will absolutely work for you without question, I can say that if you get out there and try them, you'll have more success than you have now.

A problem a lot of guys have with dating is that they don't where to start. With my program, you will get a detailed, complete education that you can use to start dating the women you like right now.

Think about it. Can you afford to spend 2-3 years running around in circles? Can you afford to lay more money down for drinks, gifts, and flowers week after week with little results? Can you afford to "wait" until something happens to you...when OTHER GUYS are already dating the SAME women you want?

Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women

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