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The Fine Line Between Being Sensitive And Being Weak
In this article we're going to talk about the fine line between being sensitive and being weak.
In my course, I tell my students to be sensitive and attentive when they are around women. But at the same time, I tell them to not act weak, needy, or emotional. So where do you draw the line between being sensitive and being weak or emotional?
I think the key is to exhibit sensitivity WITHOUT sending out signals that scream out "I'm weak!"
Much of being sensitive is about "understanding" your girlfriend. For example, you "sense" that she is upset from work and give her a hug, or you know how to read between the lines and see what a woman really means.
But it doesn't mean you should "play hurt" to get what you want like most guys do (especially when they are losing power in a relationship) or getting all defensive when you are wrong.
And most important of all, it does NOT mean you should be wearing your heart on your sleeve and constantly telling people about your "feelings".
Here are a couple of do's and don't:
1) Do admit when you're wrong and "take it like a man" when you are - without begging for forgiveness or acting guilty.
2) Do express yourself when it comes to movies and the arts.
3) Do pay attention to your date or girlfriend.
4) Do focus on creating attraction. If you're "just" sensitive, then you're just going to end up as her "best friend".
5) Don't play hurt to get what you want.
6) Don't get defensive when you're wrong.
7) Don't try to act helpless or weak.
8) Don't go on and on about your feelings.
9) Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
10) Don't act like a woman. Women want to date men, not other women. (Unless they are lesbian, obviously.)
Here's a little trick: when you do have to express feelings, express them through your actions instead of through your words. This gives a woman a chance to "sense" what's wrong or "freak out" a bit if she's involved. Don't overdo this though - you don't want to start playing mind games with women!
And honestly, you shouldn't worry too much about being sensitive UNTIL you've mastered the art of creating attraction in women. Because without attraction, you're just going to end up as her "best friend". Keep that in mind next time you want to show your sensitive side.
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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