A complaint that I get from readers (well, flamers) all the time is that I want my students to "flirt too much".

There are many people who believe that flirting is immoral or "wrong". I've received countless emails - many of them flame mails - about how I should stop teaching guys how to flirt with women so that the guys can "be themselves".

These flamers have no idea what flirting is really about.

To me, flirting is just being playful and having fun. It isn't about "seducing" anyone. It isn't about playing mind games. It's not even about picking women up. It's about making other people feel good.

Just because I flirt a little doesn't mean I am sleazy or manipulative. In fact, people (hopefully including you if we have had email correspondents in the past) often agree that I'm one of the warmest and most sincere guys they've ever met. Yet, I flirt with anything that crosses my path, be it women, animals, or even little old ladies waiting for the bus!

If you have any "moral issues" with flirting, then just keep in mind that flirting is a way of giving, not a way of taking.

Here's what a Christian reader of mine has suggested to me in the past. (Not exact quote.I am paraphrasing him.)

"See flirting as a way of giving attention to people. Think of it as a way to share your warmth. See it as a way to make other people feel good about themselves, not as a way to get anything in return."

So go ahead and flirt all you want!

Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women