Do you consider yourself a "badboy"?

Guys will often comment that "chicks dig badboys" or sometimes you'll hear women say that they like the badboy type.

This is such a common thing to hear that there must be some truth to it, right?

Yes and no.

Just like most "dating advice" out there, it's partially true, but mostly misguided.

You see, women actually DO like badboys. The problem is, no one seems to know what "bad" means.

Does it mean being a jerk?

Well, some women are attracted to manipulative, mean guys, but most women are not.

And the kind of women that like those guys are not worth the time in my opinion.

Does it mean wearing saggy jeans and t-shirts with skulls on them, or getting some retarded tattoo around your neck?

Again, some women are stuck in a high school mentality were they are giddy about superficial crap like that.

But it's rare that they'd choose a certain clothing style over real confidence or character.

Most normal, healthy, high self-esteem women don't go for tattooed bums or mean jerks.

But almost ALL women like badboys.

So what the heck is a badboy?

Well, I'm a badboy.

How do I know?

Because women tell me I am.

I don't personally think of myself as a badboy, but women definitely think I am, and that's what we're discussing here - women's perception of "the badboy."

Ask yourself if you are a badboy.

Now ask yourself if women see you as a badboy. If the answer is "no" then you're probably just as confused as I was when I first started out.

I think it all starts when you're a child. Mommy tells you to behave, your teachers tell you to be quiet and sit still, and you get a pat on the back for being a "good boy."

All your early life you're told to be "good" and not "bad."

But it was all a lie.

Am I saying you shouldn't be good to others, or do good deeds? Of course not.

What I'm saying is that what your parents, your teachers, and all those people that had power over you when you were younger LIED TO YOU about what being "good" means.

It's not their fault, because they didn't know. They were taught the same lessons themselves.

But let's clarify what the subtle lesson you learned was:

FIRST: be quiet, don't speak up, and when you do, don't be too assertive

SECOND: sit down, don't move around too much, don't go here, don't go there, don't touch that, etc

THIRD: don't talk about sex or do sexual things, because sex is dirty, and words relating to sex are "dirty"

What a bunch of rubbish.

So let's get this straight. Being "good" doesn't mean volunteer at the shelter, be kind to others, have fun with women, take care of your family.

Instead it means keep your mouth shut, suck up to people, don't move around too much, and avoid sexual topics or sexual behavior.

So what does it mean if you do the opposite of all that is?

You guessed it.

You're a BADBOY!

So really, being a "badboy" means making your own rules, speaking your mind, enjoying yourself, and being a sexual man.

I never set about to be a badboy.

But the more I realized that I was living in a matrix of made up, arbitrary, and frankly, BULLSH*T rules, the more I broke free.

And guess what - women started reacting VERY DIFFERENTLY towards me.

They started smiling at me and touching me a LOT MORE.

They started offering me their numbers, making out with me in the bar, and telling me what they wanted to do with certain parts of my anatomy when they got me alone.

I expect this kind of behavior now, and actually try to avoid being that sexual at first (for reasons I don't have time to go into right now).

I started having some really crazy experiences.

I'm sure many of you have heard of my infamous "van" stories. For those of you who don't know, I used to own a cleaning company, and my only car was a big white van - oh yeah, it looked like a total "rape-mobile."

But it didn't matter.

I would pick women up in that van, drive to a private area, and have sex right there in the van, usually within an hour.

If that's not badboy behavior, I don't know what is.

I did what I wanted, and didn't hide my sexuality. And guess what?

Women loved it.

It's EASY to be a badboy once you GET IT, but it can be hard to BECOME a badboy.

Most guys get it wrong. They'll be mean, or stand-offish, or try to act cool.

I've even see guys be outright crude and offensive just to try to get a rise out of women. That's not what being a badboy is all about.

You see, a badboy doesn't try to get a reaction from others. He isn't even thinking about what other people think of him.

He's too busy enjoying and expressing himself.

If you are wearing over-the-top clothes (peacocking), or thinking about getting your ear pierced so that women think you have an edge - forget about it.

You've already failing at being a badboy.

It's crucial that you understand how to get that REAL EDGE, that real wild side that women find irresistible. Why?

Because a woman will not stay attracted to a nice, good, wussy boy that tries to please her and is afraid to be himself.

So if you plan on meeting the women YOU want, and KEEPING them around, you better get this handled.

And you know what? Women LOVE it, so you're actually doing something good for them.

Vin DiCarlo has written The Attraction Code to help men achieve what they are looking for in women.