There's a term that I HATE...

Some people use this particular term to describe their male "competition"

The term is "AMOG's" or "Alpha Male Other Guys."

In a moment I'm going to explain why just having this term IN YOUR VOCABULARY is enough to hurt your results with women...

... and cause you unnecessary stress.

Basically "AMOG" is a short way to refer to a common pickup scenario where other guys are involved in the interaction, maybe competing with you for the woman you're after.

Describing another guy in a social situation as "alpha male" is actually completely misguided and will create all sorts of problems for you. I'll get back to that in a second.

First I want to talk about the basis of this AMOG concept, and how it's a symptom of a more basic problem guys have.

Have you ever avoided talking to a woman just because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.

Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other guys for a couple reasons.

They assume that the girl is "with" the guy, and assume he's her boyfriend.

This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being, not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses.

Approaching a woman who is "with" a guy often will make you look extremely confident, and draw out his jealous side, making him look insecure and weak.

The other reason guys don't approach women with other men points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, instantly assuming that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has been hardwired into the human brain.

It's often hard to tell who the more "dominant" human is in any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were taken out of the "race" so to speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid women unnecessarily because they are making false assumptions.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having missed so many opportunities.
Which brings me to my first point:

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

You'll never know until you find out.
Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So use your head - just don't limit your options by making false assumptions.

Vin DiCarlo has written The Attraction Code to help men achieve what they are looking for in women.