QUESTION FROM A READER:
What and when are the best time and way to ask a girl for a date? A lot of my friends tell me that the best way is to become a friend with her at first and then to try to "deepen" the realtinship. But what I do is when I meet a girl that I am intersted in, I ask her out if not immediately, I do it the day after. And I always get rejected.

What do u think?

Ivan

MY RESPONSE:
Well, there's a definite school of thought for both sides of that argument. But in a way, I think it's a loaded question. But I'll try to answer it the best I can.

What this really depends on is the type of girl you're going after and the manner in which you ask her out.

So we'll tackle the first part now:

The Type Of Girl
Okay, now when I say "type of girl," I'm not talking about who she is (blonde, brunette, 5'7 tall, etc.). I'm talking about how INTO you she is.

See, if a girl likes you, it doesn't matter when you ask her out. She's going to say YES.

But if she's on the fence, ambivalent to you, or maybe not all that attracted to you (yet), she may need a little more time for you to "work your magic" on her before she'll agree to go out with you.

So before you ask a girl out, try to figure out where she's at on the "I'm Into You" spectrum. It WILL affect your outcome.

Now onto the second part:

The Way You Ask Her Out
This is very important, because it's where most guys make a mistake. There is a certain strategy to asking a girl out that can be succesful 99% of the time, and I'll share it with you right here.

Regardless of whether she's into you or not, it's important that you display your desire for her. Now, I'm not saying you have to be drooling all over her in lust -- but I am saying you need to FLIRT with her.

Flirting is important because it will subcommunicate your intentions. Too often, men will hide the fact they like a girl, and then when they do finally ask her out, the girl is surprised and scared because it seemed to have come out of left field.

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About the author:

Joseph Matthews is the Author of The Art of Approaching Women a Breakthrough starter kit that will dramatically increase your success with women.