It's a proven fact.
People don't value things that come to them easy.
The same thing can be said about men who make themselves too available to the women they are interested in.
It's a subtle balance though. How do you persist with a woman and be a challenge at the same time?
It's a question I get ALL the time.
Let me tell you a little secret:
In a woman's mind, she has a little switch. (Not a real switch, it's just a metaphor) And we call that switch the "No-Challenge Switch".If that switch ever gets flipped, you're pretty much cooked. Out of the game, so to speak.
So you want to be sure not to ever flip it.
There are a few behaviors that do this. Any one the following:
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Calling her on a predictable schedule.
If you call a woman on a predictable schedule like once a day, or even once every other day, she will pick up on the pattern. She has just won.
She feels that no matter what she does or says to you she will always have that security of your regular phone call. You are no challenge, and there is no reason for her to plot and discuss with her girlfriends about how to get you.
Her plotting to get you = Good.
Her talking about you = Good.
Her expecting your regular call = Bad.
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Consistently answering her calls
If you answer her call every time, then this does two things. Firstly, it demonstrates to her that you are VERY interested. After all, who consistently answers their phone nowadays?
Secondly, it shows her that you don't have much going on in your life and you probably aren't very busy. This is unattractive to her. She wants a man who has a life of his own and is actively persuing
his own passions.
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Always trying to get together with her.
If, every time you talk to her, you make it a point to try and get together with her, it will come off as desperate or needy. She will feel obligation, she will feel as if you want something from her.
Sometimes you should call her simply for your own amusement. Call just to pass the time when you are driving. Call her just to tell her about something crazy that happened to you while at work.
When I say you should be a challenge, I don't mean that you should be a jerk. What I simply mean is that you put value on your own life. Put value on your time. Be unpredictable, be unavailable sometimes but when you are with her, give her experiences and moments that she will never forget.
Vin DiCarlo has written The Attraction Code to help men achieve what they are looking for in women.