How To Be A Cool Guy To Women Without Being A Jerk
An excuse I hear from guys all the time is that "women are only attracted to jerks and I am a nice guy..."
Every time I hear this, I just have to take a deep breath and say...
All right. Let's make something really clear here. I personally don't believe that women are attracted to bad guys. I just think women are attracted to INTERESTING and STRONG guys. Women are naturally drawn towards guys that can make them feel SAFE and GOOD - the things that a boring or "wimpy" guy can't do for them.
Sure, you can be a nice guy and STILL get all the girls. You can open doors for them and pull out chairs. You can be honest and never lie. You can treat women with respect...as long as you are still INTERESTING and a CHALLENGE.
Whatever you do, just make sure you do not confuse "nice" with acting needy and insecure. Don't be nice because you seek a woman's approval. Be nice on your OWN terms. As I always say, sure, people can "like" you because you let them walk all over you, but it doesn't mean they will respect you.
In fact, they probably like you "just as a friend" because you don't matter to them at all - and that's the last thing you want when you are trying to get a girl.
As an assignment, I want you to get out a piece of paper and a pen and write down what qualities the jerk has that make them fun and strong. Then think about how you can adapt these traits without becoming a jerk yourself!
Examples:
- Self-Centered (Translate it as knowing what you want and going for it.)
- Cocky (Translate it as acting like a challenge.)
- Loud and rude (Translate it as acting confident.)
- Chauvinistic (Translate it as acting dominant).
- Unpredictable (Translate it as being interesting.)
Now go and finish this exercise on your own!
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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