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How To Change A Woman
As I always say, you can't really change a person unless they WANT to change.
In many cases, the character of the person will remain the same. But if you're talking about small changes, then there's a chance that you can help promote change with the following technique.
The key is to separate the behavior from the identity of the person. This way, the person will feel that it's not really their fault.
Here's how to do it:
1) Start by complimenting the person. Tell them what they want to hear.
Example:
"Jennifer, you are a wonderful, wonderful woman and I like you a lot. You're kind, generous, and adventurous. It's very fun to be around you."
2) Bridge it to the behavior you want to stop, but do it in such a way that you're suggesting their real identity is opposite of the behavior you are trying to stop.
Example:
"I can also tell that you're a very loyal person by the way you treat me, your friends and family."
3) Then separate the behavior from the identity.
Example:
"But sometimes when I see you talk to other guys, I get uncomfortable. I know you're not trying to flirt with them because that's not the kind of girl you are. You're not like other girls and that's why I fell for you."
Here's the bottom line. If you tell someone they are horrible because they did something stupid, then you're attacking their core identity and forcing them to act defensive. But if you tell them you think they are too smart to do something stupid, they probably won't do it just so they can keep the good image!
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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