How To Meet Women In Nightclubs

Nightclubs. For the inexperienced male or one lacking in confidence, nightclubs can be one of the most intimidating settings. Now add the extra variable of wanting to meet women there, it adds fuel to the fear fire.

For some men, all they know is the nightclub scene and think that is the best place to hook up and meet women. For others it's an unknown place with bizarre social rules. For others it's a place they've never been to and prefer to stay away from.

If you want to learn how to meet women in nightclubs then you have to understand both the reality and the fantasy elements of nightclubs. The fantasy part is that men know that nightclubs, especially the "hot" ones, have more attractive women in one place then almost any other public venue. Some nightclubs actually go out of their way to keep the female to male ratio as close to 50/50 as possible because they know if there are more women there, then more male patrons will come.

Nightclubs can be a lot of fun because there's drinking, dancing, and meeting new people. Now let's take a look at the reality of meeting women in nightclubs. A woman spends an average of 2 hours getting ready before going out to a nightclub.

Why? There are several reasons for this but a very common one is that they know there are going to be other attractive women there and they know they have to look their very best if they are going to get any attention from men.

Men typically go to nightclubs to hook up, whereas women typically go to nightclubs to have fun with their girlfriends and to seek validation from men. There's a small percentage of women that go to nightclubs to hook up with that "hot" guy, but most women don't go there for that.

There's another thing to think about when going to nightclubs to meet women. About 8 out of every 10 women that go there are not what I would call long-term relationship material. Many of the women that go to nightclubs are going there to seek validation, to get their egos stroked, are in their partying phase, and generally would not make a suitable long term mate. You've got to keep that in mind when you set out for a night out.

I've met some fantastic women at nightclubs because I've learned how to sort out the freaks, the flakes, and the attention whores.

A major mistake men make when they want to meet women in nightclubs is they go there with an agenda. That agenda is usually to get laid, hook up, or find a girlfriend.

The problem with that mindset is that it leads to needy and sometimes desperate behavior. I see a lot of men walk in to a nightclub and their main focus is to scope out the talent. They need to learn how to be more subtle about it. Another needy behavior is walking up to a woman and offering to buy her a drink. Wait a cotton-pickin' minute....she hasn't even done anything to deserve a free drink yet.

I never buy a woman that I've just met a drink, she has to earn it first by having a two-way interaction with me. So when I walk up to her and approach her it might be as simple as saying "Hi, my name is Rod and yours is?"

I'm qualfying her to see if she is interesting enough for me to stick around. Men generally do it the other way around where they try to impress her or bribe her with an offer of a free drink.

Women know this and the really hot ones even come up with lame rules such as "we never pay for drinks". I've dated many attractive women ranging from college coeds to corporate women and most of them had similar rules.

An attractive woman knows she can go out at night and never have to pay for a drink or even pay to gain entrance. To meet women in nightclubs you must learn how to stand out. A powerful way to stand out is to do your research before you go to any nightclub.

Find out who owns the nightclubs, read reviews about it online on sites like Yelp.com, and when you do go, show up early and get to know the door people and the rest of the staff.

I've gone out to new nightclubs and even by my second visit I already have people calling me by my name because I gave them a large tip, bothered to learn their name, and even invited them over my apartment for a "happy hour" or mixer.

When the staff knows you it makes a big impression on the women there because it naturally increases your social status. They assume you're somebody important.

The #1 thing you can do in a nightclub setting is to go there with two goals in mind: to have fun and to meet new people. It really is that simple. When you show up, grab your beverage of choice, walk around the nightclub once or twice just to see what's going on, and then find a spot and get ready to mingle.

One technique you can use is while you're walking around the nightclub is to make a few comments to different groups of girls. You can even ask them how they're doing and if they're having fun. Once they give you their answers you can say "Great!" and then walk away, leaving them wondering who you are. It sets it up nicely to talk to them later.

Rod Cortez is an International Dating Coach who has shown thousands of men in more than 44 countries how to have more dating success. With thousands of field tests under his belt, Rod Cortez has come up with a proven, repeatable system to help men learn the laws of attraction, how to be more confidence, and how to have more natural conversations with women. For more tips you can visit The Date Pro

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