Dating Advice Coach

Here is how to not lose your girlfriend:

1) Don't Think Your Work Is Finished

Just because you have a girlfriend doesn't mean you will keep her. Here is a pattern that I see all the time as a dating and relationships coach:

Guy chases girl.

Guy gets girl.

Guy stops doing the things that helped him get the girl.

Guy loses girl.

Are you going to be one of these guys? I hope not!

2) Don't Ignore The Details

If you want to keep a woman, then pay attention to details. Notice the things she does and give her special attention. When she is unhappy, read between the lines instead of just taking her word for it. Because if you ask her what's wrong, she will just say "Nothing."

It is up to you to read into the details and see why she is upset. But don't worry, it doesn't take a genius to understand women. With a little bit of practice, you will be able to do it too.

3) Don't Stop Being A Challenge

As I say all the time, if you stop being a challenge in a relationship, romantic respect will drop and attraction will lower over time.

4) Don't Freak Out Over Her Ex's

A lot of my readers freak out when their partners talk to their ex's. This is a normal reaction, but next time it happens, ask yourself this question:

"Is there anything I can do to lower my partner's possible attraction towards an ex?" The answer is "no" and you should leave it at that. You can't change how a woman feels about another man, so just focus on keeping her attraction towards you high.

If she likes you enough, she won't think about other guys - unless she has bad character. (In this case, you don't want to date her anyway!)

5) Don't Criticize Her In Front Of People

Remember my golden rule: always compliment your girlfriend or wife in public. Don't put her down in front of other people!

6) Don't Clash With Her Friends And Family

Do your best to avoid clashing with her friends and family. Put on a smile and be polite no matter how much you dislike them. After all, you don't want her to have to choose between you and them, do you?

7) Don't "Just" Be Her Best Friend

Don't just be a woman's best friend. Be her lover. Keep the stakes and attraction high, and she won't leave you.

8) Don't Let Her Stop Over Your Boundaries

Don't be a doormat and let women walk all over you like so many guys do. Define your boundaries clearly and don't let your partner step over them.

Appeasement cannot keep a woman close to you in the long run!

9) Don't Try To Solve Her Problems

When a woman is sad, she wants to be comforted, not lectured to. Keep your solutions for her problems to yourself for now. Give her a hug and listen to her talk.

Use my happy walk technique to cheer her up if necessary.

10) Don't Stop Being Romantic

When was the last time you lit the candles?

When was the last time you were proactive in doing something romantic?

One of the keys to a healthy relationship is to keep things exciting. If she can feel the excitement, then she will want to be close to you.

Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women