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Here's a nice technique that I've invented "by accident".
A few years ago, I was trying to play Cupid and get a couple of my buddies hooked up with the women they liked. I found out what women they had a crush on and approached these women myself with the intention of getting to know them and finding out information that my friends could use to attract
them.
However, the plan backfired on me.BIG TIME. Instead of helping my friends get these women.I ended up "stealing" almost every single one of them myself by accident.
For example, once I got into a small chat with a nice lady that I knew my friend liked. A 15-minute chat soon turned into a 6-hour conversation and a short relationship. (I still feel bad about this today.even though I DID bow out and help my friend get her in the end.)
This happened over and over.until I said, "This has got to stop.", took a step back, and saw what I was doing wrong. (Or "right", I guess.)
I was:
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Trying to find out about their innermost dreams, ambitions and the feelings attached to them. (Remember.my original intention was to pass on this information to my buddies.)
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Flirting with them in different ways to see what they responded to best. (So my buddies could do the same thing.)
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Not acting interested in them myself. Instead, I kept saying good things about my friends with the intention of hooking them up. (Now I know that I was merely being a challenge to these women by doing this.)
It turned out by developing what I now call a "genuine curiosity" about these women, I was attracting them to me like fruit flies. (I was the grapefruit, haha!)
I have since adapted this technique for my personal use. Here is how YOU can use it today:
Next time you're talking to a woman, I want you to develop the SAME genuine curiosity about them. Pretend you're trying to hook up a buddy and don't expect anything for yourself. (I guess you could almost call this a variation of the "Dissociation Technique" from the Smart Dating Course.)
Be naturally curious about them and be playful about it. like how you would act if you were talking to your best friend's girlfriend for him.
Have that sly smile on your face as you push around for her buttons so that you can help your "imaginary friend" attract her.
If you hit a wall, no worries - you're just doing it for a buddy. Simply try something else and see if you get a better reaction this time.
Go try this now. Trust me, it really works.
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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