If you've recently lost your girlfriend there's a good chance you've gone on to lose her respect in an attempt to win her back.

And whether you know it or not this is the number one obstacle standing in your way of being with her again.

You see, rejection is a tough pill to swallow. But when it comes from someone you love it leads you to think and act in ways that defy logic.

Emotion leads to desperation and your actions overshadow your core qualities (qualities that made her fall for you in the first place).

For example, begging for a second chance is a classic example of this (and a mistake almost every guy makes). Your ex girlfriend will not take well to this kind of behavior.

It's impossible to change her mind about the breakup by applying hard-core pressure tactics.
Not only do they backfire but they cause her to lose respect for you in the process. This leads to a vicious circle that brings about even more mistakes, more rejection, and even more loss of self-respect.

So, what's the solution? Give her the space she asked for - but don't just sit back and wait for her to approach you.

Seize the opportunity to correct any mistakes you've made and get yourself back in "shape" as soon as possible.

That is the only way you're going to win her back.

Look, getting a girl back after a breakup is not about tricks, tactics, and techniques. Without the right mindset behind them they're just useless ploys in an attempt to manipulate the situation.

And even if you do succeed in getting her back with tricks... your happiness won't last long. If you haven't put in the effort to become the man she first fell for - to regain your self-respect as well as hers... it won't be long before she leaves you again.

Why? Because you'll still be the same needy guy.

However, by taking the time to concentrate on the aspects of your life that don't involve your ex and boost your self-esteem in the process, you'll have a very healthy chance of saving your relationship.


About the Author: George Karanastasis is recognized as one of the leading experts on men's relationship repair and creator of Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - a book dedicated to helping men with their relationship problems.