How to Meet Bartenders

You've made a statement rather than a question yes? This is very important as questions take value from people. If you want to ask a question always place a statement in front of it. For example "You look like you're having an energetic night ...So what's been happening then?"

As opposed to "How's your night ... what has been happening?"

This idea behind this is to make yourself stand out from all the other guys, and you will by making a statement rather than just requesting a bourbon and coke.

Most guys just order a drink and walk away wishing they could at least start a natural conversation with the hot bartender, she's standing there with her radiance and every guys eyes deadlocked on her, she's bored as usual and don't let the high energy attitude fool you.

Most bar girls are envying everybody else who are having a great time with their friends, who are on the dance floor and who don't have to work while she's stuck there behind the bar until 3am serving drinks.

So you've started the conversation and made a statement about her (see part one)

The keynote here is to engage her emotionally rather than logically, speak philosophically and not about facts i.e. the WORST thing you could say is just:

"How's your night?"

"How long have you been working here"

These are instant state killers and she'll pigeon hole you in the "average guy" category in a heartbeat.

So you want to be emotional and bring about her emotions when you talk to bartenders and to do this you need to at least say something other than your drink order.

Like I said it doesn't matter what you order just as long as you order it from the hottest bartender there.

I love saying this to bartenders:

"Did you know I read this study on bartenders, apparently if a girl is a bartender with blonde hair and tall then she's extra conversational, loves chatting to cute guys, and sometimes she tells lies to men, tell me is that true because I think it is ..."

Her: "hehe no that's not true"

Me: "Well there you go you're lying already ... It is true!"

Me: "You look as though you're having a fun time what's the most exciting, life changing event that's happened tonight ... besides talking to me"

If you're with a mate have a bit of fun and say:

"You know what I'd love to do to you... I want to drink baileys from your belly button in candlelight and make hot, sweet passionate love to your lips... didn't you hear me? I was talking to you Paul!"

Me: "Man he never listens to me anymore!.. it's like he doesn't respect me anymore and just uses me for my hot body I'm not just a walking sausage okay Paul!"

Her: "hehe you two are funny!"

Me: "Anyway I'll get a bourbon and coke with some passion and looooooove in it ...please."

Feel free to use these lines for yourself and you'll notice some amazing reactions from the girls you've never seen before. You'll really make these girls nights and they'll remember you the next time you order.

You're also coming from a frame where you're out to have fun, bust her chops, bust your mates chops and generally create a fun atmosphere as opposed to the other 98% of guys there who just stare at the girls working the bar, wishing and hoping that by some miracle these girls will start a conversation with them.

The bonus is if the bar isn't that busy and there're stools at the bar where you can sit (I love these by the way) then plonk yourself down and try these out and see how effective these cocky and funny lines work.

Another good piece of advice for you is to become a regular at these bars, don't be the regular drunk (that's a different story) just be a regular there and be seen there often.

Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally You can get a sample of just how good Alex really is by checking out his videos Succeed At Dating

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