Is Your Dating Scenario Really That Unique Or Special?
Do you think your dating scenario (or your situation) is really that unique or special?
I disagree.
If I could have ten dollars for every client who told me their case was somehow "different" or "special", I would be a rich, rich man.
As humans, we have the tendency to pick out the differences instead of seeing the similarities. It's just how our brains work.
But if you want success, you need to look at the common recurring patterns in the world around you and see how they apply to YOUR life.
Here's a little example. Imagine one of your female friends is going out with a chronic liar and gambler. Every week, she sobs on the phone and tells you all about the drama she is going through.
To her, her case is probably too "special" and "unique" for any relationship book out there. But to you, you just think she's one of the many women who have fallen for the wrong man.
At the end of the day, any experienced relationship coach can reduce her whole case into one short little paragraph and tell her what's probably going to happen to her relationship in the future based on similar cases they have worked on in the past. (I do it all the time!) And if she refuses to listen to the advice, she may one day turn into a statistic along the hundreds, thousands, of even millions of relationships that fail for similar reasons every year. How's that for uniqueness?
The same with guys who think they are "special" because of whatever insecurities they have. Guys always think they are unique when they write me and say, "Marius, you don't understand...flirting simply does not work for me because I..."
And guess what? I always have a solution.
To this date (and that's after seven years of coaching men and women in the dating game), I have yet to work on a case where I cannot reduce it to a simple explanation.
I'm serious.
In every field or activity, you can find patterns of success and failure. Dating is no different. Everything can be reduced to a set of rules and suggested actions. Just like knowing how to swing your golf club properly will not ruin your enjoyment of the game, knowing these relationship rules will not make dating or marriage any less exciting for you.
And this is when my "Smart Dating Course" and "Smart Relationships Course" come in. They can really improve your success in both areas by showing you the "patterns" and "rules" that I have realized over the years.
Don't know how to approach a woman?
Guess what? It can be reduced to simple steps and rules.
Want to get a phone number and a date?
Guess what? It can be reduced to simple steps and rules.
Want to know how to flirt, how to tease, and how to make a woman laugh so much she can't help but fall for you?
You got it. It can also be reduced to simple steps and rules.
Marius Panzarella is the creator of Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System he is recognized as one of the leading web dating coaches and has helped over 60,000 men lead better lives and success with women
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