There's only ONE addition that long term relationships require that most people don't have enough of today: GIVING.

If you have two people that understand attraction and THEY ARE also both GIVING people, they will last forever. It's when you have one person or two people that want to take but not to give, that it's just a matter of time before good bye.

And if they even THINK of the whole thing as "giving" they are screwed too. The GIVING should be passionate and fun too.

No wonder most people don't last. But they could, if they both understood attraction and they both wanted to make it work.

Attraction is not about GETTING someone through tricks.

It's about BECOMING the kind of person who NATURALLY attracts. This is really ultimately the only way, as any other way will crumble. And the greatest single ingredient to this "natural" way to attract has to do with YOU being in the right emotional states.

People say "easier said than done". True, but the thing is, it's also EASIER done than the OPPOSITE, which is living a life of the consequences of NOT doing this.

It CAN be done. The greatest single thing you must realize in order to change yourself is that YOU are NATURALLY NOT this static person who is only in ONE state. You've been in MANY different states in your life, probably each day you go through different states.

Once you feel a state, it's easy to stay in it. Including negative states. Because it feels like it's the only state that makes sense. Again, it just FEELS this way.

But the truth is, you could CHANGE the way you FEEEL. A negative state CAN be changed. You just THINK you can't at that moment, you THINK that you SHOULD be negative because you REALLY BELIEVE things are crap and that you really SHOULD feel crappy.

But you have to REALIZE now and forever that you CAN change to a better state.

As soon as you DO EXPERIENCE the better state, you want to STAY in it. Because whatever state you are in, it feels MASSIVELY RIGHT!

That's why all states are addictive, you want more of that state.

Look, I know WHAT I'm talking about, because believe me, this was the LAST thing I thought I'd end up doing, teaching guys how to be GREAT with women? In ANY location or Venue???? "No WAY!!!!"

A few nights ago, I was out with my buddy to a somewhat private party being held at a club. My buddy happened to meet an old friend of his there that he hadn't seen in years.

This guy was a bright guy, very smart dude, and not a bad looking guy.

But MAN, did he have a negative outlook. He was saying how personalities are something we are born with, and if you are an extrovert you will always be that way, and if you are introvert, you will always be that way.

So I guess that was his excuse for not talking to any of the girls there.

I don't even BLAME him for thinking this, I used to think this a long time ago.

Even if there IS some truth to personality being this way or that way, WHO GIVES A DAMN? Do you want to SURRENDER? Do you want NO GIRL in your life?

I say, even if it WAS painful, EMBRACE THE PAIN!!!!! YEAH!!!!! Because it's WORTH IT. Just like working out is worth it. Just like working rather than starving is worth it. Just like taking a shower rather than skipping it is worth it. And brushing your teeth.

Except, meeting A WOMAN OF QUALITY is SOOOO much more than just "worth it".

A woman who's got the inner character, not just the looks. Oh yes it's worth it.

And I have the right to say that.

Because I did NOT find it easy to go out and become this social guy. Especially at huge clubs and stuff like that.

A few years ago, I would get QUEASY and feel SICK to my stomache even as my friends
would be driving with me down to the club. Or to any party, etc.

My friends would say things like "It's funny because you feel sick and we're all laughing, that's probably because you're probably SERIOUS about taking action and you won't forgive yourself if you don't".

They were right, I was HELL BENT on this.

What's happened is that the natural nerves have taken on a new meaning to me, so I channel the energy in a positive way.

When I arrive at a club, party, or anywhere where I think there are going to be women, I hear the music of the club as if it were my theme music before getting into the ring, and I am addicted to that rush I feel, it's a mix of that anticipation of the potential of meeting awesome, stunning, fun, sexy, life-affirming women, and the rush of knowing I'm going to totally unleash the best of everything inside of me.

It really is it's own reward, because you are becoming the best person you can be. No wonder woman has motivated man since the beginning of time.

I don't have a script. I just drop the ego-protection. For example, once we got inside, this cute girl, not my type but cute, was handing out tickets for some prize at the end of the night. As she gave it to me, I playfully go wide eyed, like a little kid in the candy store:
"Is this for ME??????? For FREEEEE????? For MEEEEE????

My tonality and expression says it ALLLL. It's conveying everything in my soul.

She goes from the bored look she had on her face before and probably the whole night before I came, (and no I don't think this is arrogant to say this, because ANYONE can do this if they just DROP the ego and start GIVING FROM THE SOUL) and she MELTS INTO A HUGE WARM SMILE and she goes "yes!!!"

So I go "ohh THAAAAAAAAANK YOU!!!!" and open my arms wide and give her this great huge and a warm smile back."

Then I tell her that when you GIVE things to people, it ALWAYS comes back to you, and since you are giving so MUCH now, to so many people, you are going to get BACK sooo much!

And I think she also picked up subconsciously on the deeper meanings of all this, because the reality is that I was actually DOING this as I said it, I was not giving her so that she would give me her number or love me back or make me look popular or anything.

I was in the MOMENT and the vibe and she enjoyed it and she felt like riding that vibe, and we started to chat then and get to know each other a little before I then found my friend who was waiting for me.

He asked me "hey man, how do you know her?" I said "I don't!" He's like "nice!". By the way, my friends are the greatest people in the world, the greatest vibes, I am truly lucky
to have the friends I have. I hope I give them back the awesome vibes they give me, as they deserve sooo much, they simply are awesome, period.

Once you experience JOY and ENERGY from this stuff, you TOTALLY change, you go from YAWNING to feeling ALIVE at the idea of going out to meet girls.

But you have to REALIZE at first, even on LOGICAL level when you are NOT feeling it, that the ONLY reason you are not feeling the good stuff is because you allowed yourself to fall OUT of state, and then when you did, you ACCEPTED the emotional message of "Yes I AM depressed, yes I AM scared, and that is how it must be for now".

THAT'S BULLSHIT! Get off your butt and go out there!

Don't let your negative emotions do the talking to you!!! The negative crap can switch to empowerment on the flip of a DIME!

And once it does, you will say WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING BEFORE? And the answer is you weren't thinking, you were FEELING and you ACCEPTED those feelings as if they were the ONLY feelings you could ever feel, as if you could NOT get out of that state.

That's what emotions DO! They make you feel it's REAL!!!!!! As if no other emotions could exist, It SHUTS DOWN YOUR REAL logic, you stop THINKING, because if you DID think, you would realize that you HAVE been in other states many times before and that therefore you could do it again.

And the REASON this is all so important is because for the same reason emotions
make YOU feel like you want more of that specific emotion, the exact same thing
happens when you make a WOMAN feel emotion. She wants more of it.

But you can't make her feel more of it if you aren't feeling it yourself! If you don't feel awesome, dominant, playful, etc, then how on earth can SHE feel you are this person?????

When you feel and believe in your excellence, you are then giving women a great emotional GIFT.

But if you are looking to HER for approval, then that's the AUTOMATIC SIGN that you are NOT this giver, but rather a taker, even if you don't want to be a taker, it feels as if you will be taking from her.

Ironic, huh?

Fall in love with your OWN awesome frames of reality and self before you fall in love with any woman.

And of course, once you do fall in love with your own frames of self and reality,

You will really NOT NEED approval, which really WILL bring in the chicks,

Which is ironic because you really won't need the whole love thing, but it's nice anyway to get it, it's just not a big deal anymore to you.

As I said before, this development is the reward itself. Your desire for women, the real prize is the self-development that must occur in order to attract in the first place.

And when you want to get a woman feeling SEXUAL, you just have to realize that most women are ALERT to not getting too sexual too fast with just anyone, you have to ignite her OTHER emotions first. THAT is part of the overall "VALUE" that women are looking for.

No, you don't have to be a circus show. You shouldn't be one in fact. But you have to be COMPELLING, emotionally, otherwise you are just a blank space in the universe to her.

When I talk about being of high value, the value is THE EMOTIONS she FEELS as a result of being with you. So if she is feeling that you are a MAN, a guy with confidence, class, sense of humor, dominance, and sexuality, THAT is value.

But rather than faking it, it's so much more powerful to actually BE THAT PERSON.

And you CAN.

Michael The Dating Wizard has developed a program that helps men "Naturally Attract Women" instead of using memorized pick up lines or someone elses material and methods The Dating Wizard shows you how to be the YOU woman naturally want with his ebook Secrets to Success With Women