Okay, you're sitting with girl on your bed.

She's making out with your tongue, playing field hockey with your tonsils.

You kiss her neck while you pass your palm over her breasts through her shirt and with the other hand stroke her thigh.

You slip one of your hands down her jeans and start massaging her lips with your fingers.

Then she speaks those pesky words you prayed you wouldn't hear.

"No. stop. we shouldn't be doing this." she says.

You feel that disappointing feeling of frustration.  So close, and yet what do you do?

Most guys unfortunately either 1) stop moving forward, 2) start begging for sex, or 3) start arguing with the girl as to why she should continue.

With all three strategies however, you're playing with matches on a wooden boat.

Most likely they'll backfire and the ship will sink.

If you stop moving forward with the hopes that you'll show her that you're sensitive to her feelings and a swell guy, she may just come to the conclusion that you're another "nice guy" who folded at the very first sign of resistance - not very sexy.

In any case, if you stop she'll most likely pop out of state and you'll have a lot of backtracking to do.

If you start begging like, "Please. girl. just let me take this bra off. come on baby. please baby." you'll come across as needy and desperate to get into her pants. Begging also engages the woman's neocortex which is responsible for reasoning and critical judgment - and frames sexual escalation into a yes/no choice for the woman.

In other words, you're placing all the power of sexual escalation into the woman's hands - specifically into the hands of her critical mind that's responsible for acceptance or rejection - which is exactly where you DON'T want the power to be.

For example, imagine you're at a car dealership and you're on the fence about buying this new car. You've just met the salesman that afternoon - so naturally you don't know if he's completely trustworthy, even though he may seem to be.

You hesitate whether you should buy the car or not and suddenly the salesman starts pleading with you to buy the car. He begs of you, "Come on. please buy this car. do it for me. I really need this commission."

You're not going to instantly feel sorry for him and buy the car. In fact, his neediness will probably turn you off. You may even begin to start to think of every reason NOT to buy the car.

Arguing with a woman using rational reasoning too is simply a form of sophisticated begging. For example, you might argue with a woman, "Yes. but we've already known each other for two weeks. what's the big deal? Sex is natural."

You MAY convince her to move forward, but it's much more likely she'll simply react with counter reasons to your reasons. Again, you're engaging her neocortex, the critical, judging part of the woman's brain that looks for reasons to stop. You're only feeding her resistance fuel to throw back at you.

Now, if you have a girl isolated, sitting on your bed, and kissing you - there's a 99% chance she *IS* willing to sleep with you.

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Derek Vitalio is one of the leading authorities on How to Attract and Seduce beautiful women his book Seduction Science is highly recommended.