There's a point I want to get to, which is this whole idea of "cheating".

Once you understand the causes for this stuff, you start to look at it in a very different perspective.

But before I get into that, I just have to nuke some of the hogwash out there. Whenever I hear about people who are trying to brainwash guys into "open relationships" with the logic that "naturally, human beings are polygamous" or with the stats on the high levels of infidelity, I have to wonder what these guys would say in the face of a GRAIN of LOGIC.

I have nothing against open relationships per se, EXCEPT for the fact that I haven't met ONE PERSON on earth who was happy in it long term, male or female.

Also, I notice that usually, the people who are so obsessed with convincing OTHER people that it is the only way to go, are the people who simply cannot get a fantastic woman to stay with them in the first place, or who don't believe they have the value to get a woman who is fantastic to stay with them.

Or they are men who have been hurt badly, which is something I TOTALLY understand, but I also realize that we have to get over our own history.

These guys who obsess with convincing others that they are fools for wanting a relationship, well these "gurus" are the same guys who need to "show off" how many women they have been with.

This is ALWAYS a key symptom of a guy who is NOT happy with the women or woman in his life. The more you VALUE the person you are with, the LESS you want to chalk them up as simply "another notch".

The irony of ironies, is that these are the same guys who keep on saying how important it is to not kiss and tell, meanwhile, they spend ALL their time telling! They have a NEED to tell, because they seek, ironically, the approval of other MEN!!!

Never mind that these men are usually CLUELESS and have never been in a satisfying relationship in their LIFE.

Honestly, this social pressure of insecure clueless people that have a need to brainwash others is the thing that I have fought my whole life, so that I could come to conclusions based on my own research and thinking and not based neccessarily on what most people are doing around me, not unless it made sense.

So, the only thing "natural" for human beings is EATING and SLEEPING. And even the ways human beings have found to do THAT differ in about a billion ways.

When it comes to everything else, from how we survive in different parts of the world, to how we celebrate, to how we LEARN, to how we spend our every SECOND, to how we relate to each other, to our parents, children, friends, relatives, it's VASTLY different from culture to culture to region to subculture to individual to individual, it's CRAZY different.

And it all feels quite "natural" to each person.

So when it comes to humans, no one can tell anyone what is really the "natural". All because as human beings we have this thing called CREATIVITY which is what makes us both worse and better than most animals. i.e. Animals only kill each other for food for survival, they don't have wars.

But humans are able to also help each other on a scale that animals don't.

And, when it comes to STATISTICS on being faithful, well that is REALLLLLLY something I laugh my head off when guys try to use that as their model for their own behavior.

You see, if we are going to base our behaviour on statistics, well then, MOST PEOPLE don't accomplish their goals in life. MOST people are not too happy. MOST people are overweight. MOST people are not eating right.

MOST people never improve their self-esteem much. MOST people never even ATTEMPT to pursue their goals!

So, if we are going to base our LIFE on what MOST people do, then we are in REAL trouble.

I personally don't aim for what MOST people do. If you are reading this, you are the kind of person who is trying to improve himself in an area that most guys will never work up the courage to do. That makes you already NOT like MOST people.

So, you CAN have WHATEVER type of relationship you WANT, as long as you are not a HYPOCRITE, as long as you don't want something for nothing, as long as you are prepared to LEAD BY EXAMPLE.

Any level of psychological state CAN be achieved, from sustaining attraction to feeling even greater attraction over the long term. It just becomes a simple question of deciding what you WANT, and then doing what is required to get it.

It may take some learning, some skill, some wisdom, but you CAN get it.

And of course, you have to be ready to not waste time on the women who are too emotionally damaged to be able to let go of the toxic attitudes they have received from other damaged people.

You give a person a chance, you lead by example, but you can't spend your time on changing a person, as that's a waste of time and doesn't work.

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