Ran Out Of Things To Say To A Woman?

"I ran out of things to talk about... what should I do?"

Sound familiar?

Of course it does - because I know you've probably uttered those words before, maybe you still do regularly.

Technically unless you were born yesterday, you're not going to "run out of things to talk about" more than you "run out of things you THINK you can talk about" with the girl who happens to be with you.

But, rather than give you more to talk about, I will give you something to think about.  At some point you should STOP focusing entirely on talking and START focusing on physically escalating.
Touch, physical flirting, some physical dominance, and leading physically!

If you can't do that, then you could have an infinite amount to "talk" about yet still get nowhere.

OK, so there are 2 ways to make this work for you.  First is to recognize when you're in such a situation, and the second is to know how to handle the escalation.

It's easy to recognize it's happening to you and you need a mental trick to get you out of this "stuck" way of thinking.  The trick is, when you hear your inner voice say something like "What should I say next?  I'm drawing a blank.", change the inner voice to ask "Where should I touch her next?"

The reason that will help you, at least to get out of your hesitation, is because it strips away the pressure of needing to think about 18 million things and simplifies it onto something easy to handle: Observing her body which is right in front of you.

To handle the escalation, the key word is: escalation.

You don't grab her boobs out of nowhere.

First you do simple things like making a comment about her hand size and comparing the size of your hand to hers.  It's simple touching, but it works.

You can also just look at her and "nudge" her as if you just shared a private joke.  Tickling is also good.  If you're standing and she's wearing jeans, a smooth move to get her closer to you is to hook one of her belt loops with your finger and just pull her in.

Comparing heights back-to-back is another trick, then turn around to face her very closely.

You can also leave some of your exercise stuff laying around your place and showing her some workout tips.

Initiating a little further with massage can also get you moving forward more.

All of these things INITIATE touch.  Once touch is initiated, consider it a downhill process.  A small touch can turn into a bigger one and you will start to get positive physical responses from the girl which encourage you to go a little further.  It's certainly easier to escalate from a small success to a bigger one than it is to hesitate forever in making any move at all.

If you're in a public place, the escalation has to be metered, and can't get too far, but initiating something is going to make it much easier to escalate when you are isolated with her at a later
time.

If you're already isolated with her, you don't have to be concerned about anything other than her own possible hesitation; for which you know we'll be sharing advice with you on that within other articles :)

Now, I've run out of things to say today...

~Jay

PickUp 101 instructor Jay is one of several different experts who contribute to the success of PickUp 101. Lance Mason and his team of experts have created Surefire Attraction Secrets in order to provide men the foundation to build upon to succed with women