Dating Advice Coach

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a 10, then I think you'll find this article very interesting.

But first, let's go waaay back...

When I was in high school, there was this girl in my class who was perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't look away)...

She was one of the popular kids, but was friendly to everyone.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I wanted to ask her to senior prom so badly...but I chickened out at the last minute.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all senior year.

I've talked to a lot of guys and this experience seems pretty common – there was this ONE SPECIAL GIRL who you crushed on from afar, or you missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart...

Ah, the elusive "10," the perfect girl that every guy wants but never seems to attain.

I have a lot to say about so-called "10's." In one sense they are another "breed" of woman, but at the same time, it's that kind of thinking that makes them so.

Understanding your own fascination with female perfection, and understanding the reality of extremely beautiful women will help you resolve this conundrum, and maybe help you find that "perfect girl" for yourself.

First of all, the concept of a "10" is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more "valuable" just because she looks nicer than other women.

The only true "10" is the one that's perfect for you, a woman that turns you on whom you have great chemistry with.

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10's, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because every other guy does that.

She knows what you're about and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another "level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

This is important to understand so that you know how to deal with these kinds of women.

Like I said, you shouldn't treat them "differently."

Let me clarify.

You shouldn't treat them BETTER than other women. But there are a couple things you need to know.

First, she is sick of guys chasing her for her looks alone.

She wants to be appreciated for her personality more than anything else.

Now for your own sake I'm going to give you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

High self esteem, and low self-esteem.

Low self esteem 10's are pretty common. They are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't EARN that attention, so they have a guilt complex.

In fact, most of their lives they've probably coasted, and are complete dumbasses.

May sound harsh but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back.

Anything.

(As a side, these girls usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Now high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of the elite - they realized early on that high levels of society were attainable to them, and they made an effort to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

HSE 10's usually have good attitudes, have a direction in life, are intelligent, and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

In fact, the most beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings reading, being with their families, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here's another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends.

Why?

Because they have high standards for themselves, and since most guys are either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

Vin DiCarlo has written The Attraction Code to help men achieve what they are looking for in women.