Question From A Reader:

I can be smart and funny with a woman and I can be personable and outgoing with witty things to say and I can help any group have a good time. Yet, I don't know how to mix in the right balance of intimate conversation and physical escalation.

That is, I can be a "cool guy' but I can't seem to find myself as the "sexy man" who always says the right thing to a woman. When I am alone with a woman, sometimes I tease her a little too much because I don't know when to say romantic things and when to bust on her a little bit. I usually just make her laugh a lot but getting past that into something more intimate is where I get hung up. This has gotten me put in the friend category so much throughout my life.

What can I do to improve?

Teddy Shabba Answer:

You already know that communication with a woman is easy, so it isn't a big deal to talk to women because you believe that both of you will have a good time.

Yet, I imagine that if you were to really think about it and look at ALL the times you talked to women you aren't always smart and funny with everyone.

Since you believe you are smart and funny with women that is what you are with women and when you are not your beliefs simply allow you to move on and forget about it.

However, when it comes to actually having sex with women your belief is you don't know the right thing to say.

Which causes you to fear being rejected by her so instead of making a move towards sex, you do what you know you can do; be smart and funny.

When you do that in a sexual situation most women will follow your lead and put you in the "friend zone" which is where you want to be or at least that's what she thinks.

Just like being smart and funny, when done right, just happens and you know what to say.

The same goes for sexual situations as well, if you start doing what you want to do instead of what you think is the "safe" thing to do.

You will start to find yourself being that sexy man you can see yourself being right now.

Now, will you be that sexy man always?

Probably not, but all that is really important is that you believe it, as that is the only way you can be that sexy man more times than not, and in your mind all the time.

Teddy Shabba has been helping men achieve happiness and success with women in a way that allows you to feel authentic and comfortable with women.
If you are a man looking to make a change with women for the better Teddy Shabba is available for one-on-one coaching and can be reached by visiting his website at TeddyShabba.com