You meet a woman you really like. The phone conversations go well.

You arrange to hang out together. That goes great also.

She may even flirt like gangbusters and all but attack you first when you go for the kiss.

Maybe you go out with her again. And it goes great...again.

Then...NOTHING. She evaporates.

Or at the very least she texts you or leaves some lame voice mail saying in some "code language" that she can't see you anymore.

Your first impression, if you're a normal guy who drinks beer and bleeds red, is that YOU blew it somehow.

And that makes sense. After all, kill the attraction by being creepy or wimpy and, well, women sort of bail on you.

But what if you've analyzed every single angle of this thing (as apparently is a favorite pastime of most of the guys I know) and you're at a total loss.

You're beating your head up against the wall (figuratively, let's hope) and coming up with nothing but question marks.

OK, well maybe she met someone else. You've been "kicked off the island", like the recent video-blog I did talked about.

That sucks. But it's a possibility.

And if all else fails, you'll probably think that must have been what happened. Then you invariably start wondering what he's got that you don't.

Not so fast, hombre.

There's another option.

But you're going to have to change your inwardly focused ways to get to it.

And fair warning...this is yet another "high quality problem", albeit

a flat-out weird one.

To set up the scenario here, let's first consider something basic.

Women can suffer from the exact same brand of anxieties, self-esteem issues and other "limiting beliefs" that we can as guys.

Of course, sometimes such women are amazing, terrific and even stunning to most everyone else...but themselves.

What if the truth is that you have become a man who's getting the "Big Four" (masculinity, confidence, ability to inspire confidence, character) down more and more every day?

Sometimes a woman will simply refuse to believe that she deserves a high-quality man in her life.

Shockingly, I've found that whether or not a woman feels this way has almost no correlation to how amazing she REALLY is. So you might not be able to spot her right away.

And there's another possible twist to this phenomenon, too.

Believe it or not, you'd be shocked by how often some women meet a guy who is solid in every way and decide he's "too good to be true".

Once again, this guy could very well be YOU if you've been paying attention to what we've been talking about around here lately.

Having attracted a parade of I/J's (Idiot/Jerks), mama's boys and wussies forever, in either of the situations I just described the woman may "pull the plug" on you as a "preemptive strike".

That way, she doesn't have to risk you twisting her emotions into knots later when you dump her, which in her mind is all but inevitable.

Don't say I didn't warn you this was a bizarre concept. But we're talking advanced-level Chick Whispering here for sure.

I've personally been on dates where the woman announced, out of the blue, that she was ready for the "real version" of me to jump out from behind a bush or something at any moment. Should you hear something like that, it's a primary indicator that what I'm talking about is going on.

And if you are hearing stuff like that on dates from time to time, pay attention and file that intelligence away. Because the next time around you may not get any clues at all.

Just the "freeze out" or the "hit and run" voice mail message.

But here's the thing: Once you can RECOGNIZE when there's a possibility something like what we're discussing here is going on, you can actually DO SOMETHING about it.

Here's the deal.

When a woman "wimps out" (e.g. from a relationship they believe they are not worthy of, or as a "preemptive strike" against getting hurt), it's up to the man to TAKE CONTROL.

If we want out and let her go, that's our business. And it could be the right decision.

Or...we can elect to rise to the occasion, become righteously indignant and show some well-placed but firm emotion about it.

I've done exactly that with great effect in the past.

Sometimes you can really inspire women here by becoming upset with them for not believing in their own beauty, and overall value really.

I've even told women that their lack of faith in my attraction to them was in fact to be taken as an insult of my own choices, since I chose her willingly.

I don't associate myself closely with substandard women, and her assumption to the contrary--even when inwardly focused--was not going to be excused as "modesty" when it was clear she was seriously doubting her worth.

I'd tell her that was flatly unacceptable behavior...and often I'd get tangible results.

And so can you in these situations. Women follow our lead.

If you've been reading my articles for a while, you know that what you read about here is way beyond "the basics".

Sure, you've got to know how to be that man who knows what great women want, and how to make it happen.

You've got to know how to approach a woman. You've go to know how to talk to her.

But you've ALSO got to get past the "paint by numbers" approach and soar above having to ask "What do I do next?"

And the more you know, the greater your advantage is over other guys.

And the more you know, the sooner you RAISE THE BAR when it comes to the quality of the women in your life.

You've heard me tell you that this isn't as far away or elusive as it may seem.

In fact, the exact amount of time you may spend learning techniques and tactics could even be MORE than what it would have taken to become an authentic man who NATURALLY and EFFORTLESSLY succeeds with the highest echelon of women.

[About the Author]: Scot Mckay is well-known for his monumental VIRTUOSITY program, for his multiple top-ranked podcasts on iTunes and his unique formula for online dating success--in which he objectively demonstrates how to literally dominate one's entire metro area on the dating site of your choice.