What Do Women Really Want?
A common question men ask is what do women really want?
They seem to say things like "I want a nice guy" and then
they end up dating a complete jerk. If they don't go out
with a jerk then they go out with the "bad boy". When a
man asks me that question, I ask them why do they feel
compelled to have an answer to that?
Before a man can answer that question he first needs to
be able to answer "what do I want in a woman?" Every man
has a different set of beliefs, values, and preferences
and he should really put some thought on how important
they are to him. Using myself as an example, I'm at a
point in my life where I don't want to be in a relationship.
So the #1 value I'm looking for in a woman right now is
that she has to be fun and easy-going. Someone else might
be looking for a woman that places higher value on things
like family, communication, finances, etc.
Once a man has figured out what he really wants in a
woman, then it makes it much easier for him to screen
out the women that does not fit his criteria and he focus
his time and energy on the ones that do. So we come
full circle and get back to the common question that men
ask me and that is "what do women really want?".
Every woman is unique and different, but over the years
I've noticed some commonalities that they share. We are
assuming that we are also talking about emotionally
healthy women that are not dealing with a lot of personal
issues. Here are some of the common things that women
want?
1. Women want a man with a spine - A very common complaint
I hear from women around the world is that it's hard to
find a real man. What does that mean anyway? They are
looking for a man who has his own opinion, who is not
afraid to disagree with her, and a man who will stand up
for himself and for her.
2. Women want a man with leadership skills - Whether it's
going out for a night out on the town or in the bedroom,
a woman wants a man who is not afraid to be the Alpha Male.
He's not afraid to lead. This does not mean that he acts
controlling or jealous. On the contrary, a man who is
either a natural leader or has honed his leadership skills
because he has dated a lot of women, will know when and
how to lead. A great way of leading is to give your date
2 to 3 options on what to do for that coming weekend and
then letting her decide. For the first date, you should
do what you like because this will help you screen her to
see if she likes doing what you like to do.
3. Women want a man, not a boy - An attractive woman who
is healthy and well-balanced does not want to date a boy.
She wants a man who has his own life, has goals, and
ambition. He doesn't live with his parents, he has his
own place, and does not have financial problems.
4. When she's ready she will want a man who can commit -
When a woman begins developing feelings for you, she
will let you know it. She will start talking about the
future, either directly or indirectly. She might start
saying things like "wouldn't our kids be cute?" or
"wouldn't it be cool if we went to Hawaii next summer?".
When a woman makes foward-looking statements that hint
about the future, then it's a huge sign that she wants
to take things to the next level. Sure, some women
casually date, but ultimately most women eventually
want to settle down with someone. It's up to you to
pay attention and listen to what she's really saying to
you.
5. Women want a man with a healthy self image and style -
Ever had an old girlfriend nag at you because you wore
the same stupid baseball cap? Or maybe because you
needed to trim those eyebrows of yours? Ever go to the
shopping mall with a woman and she starts suggesting
on what things you should wear? Attractive women
want a man with style. It's obvious that women don't
like slobs. Most men don't have a good sense of style
which is why they should recruit a female friend or
relative to go shopping with them. If that's not
possible, simply going to a shopping mall and looking
for the most attractive female clerk to help you can
do the trick.
Having style isn't enough. You should also have a
positive outlook toward life and your future. Women
find that very attractive. No one likes a whiner or
a complainer, so if you have a tendency to be negative
you really should make an effort to get that handled.
Otherwise you might look back a few years from now
and ask the same question "what do women really want?"
Rod Cortez is an International Dating Coach who has shown thousands of men in more than 44 countries how to have more dating success. With thousands of field tests under his belt, Rod Cortez has come up with a proven, repeatable system to help men learn the laws of attraction, how to be more confidence, and how to have more natural conversations with women. For more tips you can visit The Date Pro
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