QUESTION FROM A READER:

 
My questions are basically what to do when you do get a date. What do you actually talk about in conversation? So much is focused on the actual pickup and first meeting (and I'm also still working on this
area), but what do you actually do in the two hours of your first date? What do you talk about so she doesn't lose attraction? I find that when I talk to women on the phone (friends I'm trying to get with), I worry about how much cocky funny I'm doing, and if I'm not doing it enough, then the attraction won't be dialed up enough.

Thanks in advance,

Adam. of MA


MY ANSWER:

Adam, My main man...shes ALREADY agreed to meet you, so a lot of your work is already done!

You don't need to try to impress her, or run game...try too hard with the C+F.

I'd lean back, relax, ask her some questions about herself... and here and there you'll SPRINKLE in some C+F.  Thats what I do.

When I first started this stuff I would really overdo the C+F and I'd screw things up.

Why?

Cause I was trying TOO hard.  Don't do it.

Here the deal.  Meet her for a drink at a bar/lounge...

why?

Its a MUCH better setting than coffee because you don't have a table between you 2.

Thankfully.

Bar/lounges are way more chill and you can just drink, people watch (Always a good and fun thing to do) etc.

I'd talk about funny things, ask her questions about herself and relax.

Don't talk too much. 

I always think the more you keep your mouth zipped the longer you have a chance to stay around.

Be mysterious...she wants to know what she doesn't already know so that means DON'T SPILL YOUR GUTS OUT ON THE FIRST DATE!

Don't tell her your life story.

If any of you guys reading this end up doing that I'm going to be VERY disappointed with you.  Don't let me down hommies.