***QUESTION*** 

Stephane, 

My girlfriend's ex lives very far away, from what I hear 

from her, he loves her very much and will do anything 

for her. Our relationship is growing by the day, but as 

we grow together she tells me she can't let go of him, 

that I'm in her heart completely, but there's still a 

tiny sliver with him. She asks me "what should I do?". 

I know I should've said something like "He's gone, it's 

us now!". He's been calling nonstop for a week or so now, 

which is driving her nuts. 

Any ideas? Many thanks. 

>>>MY COMMENTS: 

First of all, being unable to let go of a past relationship 

is usually just a sign that there are some LESSONS that 

we need to learn. 

I would probably have her focusing on those lessons. 

It is also wise to view this sort of thing as a test. In this 

case, a neediness test. 

I say things to girls like, "You need CLOSURE with this guy. 

You owe it to yourself to go and see if his Heart beats with 

yours more than mine does. I don't want to own you, and if 

you decide to be with him, I'll be happy for you both. Perhaps 

you can bring him by the house someday, so I can shake his 

hand." 

I say stuff like that to girls, and I say it congruently, 

honestly, sincerely. 

I'm not needy, because Existence takes care of me anyway. If 

I am meant to be alone for a long "dry spell", I just roll 

with it. I am my own best companion anyway, so it's all good. 

"I trust the universe to supply my abundance of p*ssy" is 

just my humorous way of talking about non-neediness. 

You will notice that the moment you let go, and surrender 

your Heart to Existence, letting go of all neediness, women 

will seriously come knocking, they'll be POUNDING your door 

down, because every other guy tries to own them, every man 

simply reduces women into things, into his property. 

Neediness, it's really the biggest turn-off. 

Whatever you do, don't let a woman see that you feel 

threatened by other men, ever. 

And by the same token, I suggest that you don't ever tell 

women that you will WAIT for them to change their minds. 

It's just more neediness, disguised as strength, and women 

intuitively know we're "full of it" whenever we say idiotic 

things like, "I'll be right here, waiting for you". 

That makes for a great love song, but a very crappy love 

life. 

Also, you can always teach her the "decision grid" from the 

GTP Manual, to help her decide ON HER OWN what she should do. 

I would also challenge her to ask her own Heart what she 

should do, because the answer is right there waiting for her 

to listen, or FEEL the answer rather... If you know about 

Chakras, then you know exactly how to help a woman open her 

Heart in an *instant*. As long as she's willing, it's fairly 

easy to do.

Stephane Hemon is committed to helping people enhance their love lives exponentially, whether you are single, dating casually, in an open relationship, a committed relationship, married, divorced, or even living in groups.